Evolving with Authenticity
Personal Growth
Excellence is the summit of personal growth. Anyone who aspires to reach its peak must be daring enough to master their strongest instincts and conquer their darkest shadows. As such, the journey to the top of this mountain is indeed a difficult one, filled with many challenges and countless paths that can easily lead one astray.
It doesn't really matter how fast you're going if you're heading in the wrong direction.
Stephen R. Covey
The climb to excellence may demand effort; but effort alone is never enough. Even if you gave it your all, you will not go far without the right direction. Unless you focus your efforts on the relevant areas in life, any attempt to improve would either be insignificant or temporary.
Few things are as disheartening as investing a considerable amount of time and effort, only to discover later on that you were heading in the wrong direction all along. To prevent this, a mental map would help you develop a deeper understanding of your personality so that you can chart your journey in the right direction. Not only does this save you time, but it also accelerates your growth by a hundredfold.
True success can only be attained by finding equilibrium within: a perfect balance between both our strengths and weaknesses. However, because of our innate tendencies, many of us will gravitate towards our strengths to avoid confronting our weaknesses. Unfortunately, those who live life on autopilot will never amount to much, for the path of success only reveals itself to those who are willing to understand and harness the power of their shadows.
While we trust that you will ultimately forge a distinct path that aligns perfectly with your life's journey, we believe that a starting point will help you tremendously. Therefore, we have provided ten essential paths to guide you in the right direction as you embark on your journey of continuous growth.
Not only is perfection at the forefront of the minds of Oracles, it is the sole consideration in most things they do. They stress out when things do not turn out exactly as planned. Seeking perfection in all places, any unexpected setbacks can throw them into a fit of anxiety, even when circumstances are beyond their control. Unfortunately, what many Oracles fail to realize is that their obsessive desire for perfection often leads them down a dead-end.
The secret to breaking free from perfectionism lies in embracing things for what they are. This includes the imperfect nature of life itself. Oracles must accept that whatever can go wrong will go wrong, no matter how much they try. Only then will they be free from the shackles of perfectionism. Yet, it is not merely being apathetic. More than that, it is the union between the awareness of an imperfect life and living it to the fullest that will grant Oracles true happiness.
Life is chaotic in the eyes of Oracles. Often, they want to be in control, but no amount of planning will ever suffice. Unfortunately, the unexpected twists of life will always leave them feeling like the sky is falling. However, changes do not equate to disaster. If Oracles learn to go with the flow, even the worst of tragedies can be turned into a wealth of opportunities.
Therefore, true control can only be attained when Oracles shake off the illusion of control. The truth of life is that no one has complete power over everything. Rather than worrying about the things they cannot control, they should focus on the ones they can. Oracles should also welcome the unexpected by allowing for improvisation in their plans. Eventually, they will realize that letting go of their tight grip actually grants them more control over the chaos in their life.
A comfort zone is a haven to be in. Within it, the risks are calculated, but beyond it, lies everything unknown. It may seem terrifying to step out of it, to the point where Oracles are willing to sacrifice their own growth in exchange for security. Rather than breaking out, they can simply expand their comfort zones instead. And if Oracles continually face their fears and expose themselves to the unknown, their comfort zones will eventually be boundless.
To stretch out their comfort zones, Oracles must push themselves to delve into things that are foreign to them. Learning to be comfortable with the unfamiliar is vital for their growth. They can start by trying something new every day or exploring areas of life where they were previously afraid to venture. As they broaden their horizons, Oracles will become more confident with the unknown, and what was once terrifying will become just another part of their daily life.
Imagination has played a crucial role in human progress thus far. Without it, there may not be as many groundbreaking discoveries as there are today. However, it also presents a double-edged sword as Oracles may sometimes envision ideas that are only feasible in the sandbox of their minds. Therefore, in their attempt to bring these ideas to life, they may sometimes find that their imaginations fall short in the face of practical limitations.
If Oracles want to make the impossible possible, it’s crucial to remain grounded in reality. To do so, they should include a realistic filter when examining the world around them. And it might sound like a bummer, but not all ideas are immediately achievable. Some may require cutting-edge technology that has yet to exist, while others may be too wild to garner support. Whatever it is, Oracles should always tailor their ideas to match what is realistically possible.
In the absence of answers, intelligent guesses are often needed to help fill the gaps in our understanding. The problem, however, arises when Oracles spontaneously make such guesses all the time. They might glance through an issue and immediately jump to conclusions that seem baseless at best, and ridiculous at worst. Without factual evidence to support their claims, people will eventually stop taking Oracles as seriously as they should.
As a good rule of thumb, Oracles should always verify their claims before tossing them out. They must keep in mind that without facts, their claims are merely speculations that hold no water. In some cases, Oracles may even be surprised to discover that their theories are completely false when measured up with facts. To avoid potential embarrassment, Oracles should always support their theories with solid facts instead of assumptions pulled out of thin air.
Most Oracles see themselves as the main character of their story. And in these stories, the people around them are rarely given much focus, if any is given at all. By and large, Oracles have a tendency to talk about or do things solely for themselves. Hence, they often seem inconsiderate and self-absorbed: a major turn-off for most. If left unchecked, this behavior may drive people away, leaving Oracles alone with only their thoughts for company.
But of course, none of that is intentional. Oftentimes, Oracles are just unaware of how their actions are perceived by others. To overcome this, they can start by shifting some of their focus away from themselves and onto others. They should try to put people above themselves and seek ways to make things easier or better for those around them. By doing so, Oracles will eventually find themselves in supportive relationships that bring deep fulfillment.
Oracles place a lot of importance on self-improvement as they strive to unlock their highest potential. However, in their efforts to do so, they rarely seek out people's opinions on them. It may seem like a sign of arrogance, but in actuality, the thought of doing so just never crossed their minds. As such, they may only work on the flaws apparent to them, overlooking the ones hidden in their blindspot.
If Oracles are truly desperate for growth, the best thing they can do is to seek feedback from others. Although it might seem terrifying to expose oneself to criticism, it will be an invaluable experience as there is no one better equipped to provide objective feedback than an outsider. More importantly, everyone sees things differently. By hearing people out, Oracles can gain a multitude of opinions that can help illuminate many areas for them to improve in.
Sometimes, Oracles will find themselves caught in a dilemma. While it makes logical sense to do one thing, their feelings may say otherwise. In situations like this, some Oracles might give in to their emotions simply because it feels right. However, experience shows that this approach often leads to disastrous outcomes. To avoid falling into either extreme, Oracles must strike a balance between logic and emotions, just like the harmony of yin and yang.
Thus, it is never a good idea to use feelings as a shortcut to decisions, as the resulting conclusions are bound to lack logical substance. While emotions can serve as a valuable starting point, Oracles should incorporate critical thinking in their decision-making process. After all, what feels right may not always make sense, and what makes sense may not always feel right. By paying equal attention to both aspects, Oracles will see a fuller picture and arrive at better conclusions.
Most people would describe Oracles as individuals living in their own world. Only concerned with their personal interests, they constrain their point of view to just a tiny slice of the world. They might hold narrow opinions which are not representative of the realities they live in. As such, some Oracles may go about their whole lives ignorant to the perspectives and life experiences of others.
Oracles should share their views with others more often. In doing so, they would get into fruitful discussions that could expose them to a spectrum of diverse perspectives. These dialogues push people to understand each other more while engaging them to think differently. Thus, by actively seeking out differing opinions, Oracles learn to be more compassionate and wise as they broaden their horizons.
Be it physical constraints or computer glitches, Oracles tend to stress out over various situations in life. Their feelings may range from righteous indignation against for-profit corporations to frantic anxiety over their jammed printer. However, letting such emotions control their perspectives will only cause them to make mountains out of molehills. As their stress builds up, even the smallest of hiccups may set off a negative chain reaction consuming Oracles entirely.
Truth be told, anything in life can be annoying and stressful only if one allows it. Hence, it is important for Oracles to learn how to respond to stress effectively, so that they can remain calm even under pressure. To do so, they must first recognize when they are overreacting. Then, they should take a step back to put the problem into perspective. Without the ability to do this, everlasting peace and happiness will continue to be an elusive dream for Oracles.
And with that, it is now time to embark on a new chapter of your life! Nevertheless, we would like to remind you that even though the ten points outlined above may seem easy and straightforward, mastering them is still a challenging task. One must remember that the pursuit of excellence draws upon the power of tiny gains, where small changes over time lead to massive transformation.
So instead of making dramatic improvements, one should take it a step at a time, climbing just 1% higher every single day. Think of your journey as a marathon rather than a sprint; it takes plenty of courage, patience, and tenacity to keep going until the end. And before long, you will eventually find yourself at the peak, awestruck by the magnificent view and ready to go beyond excellence!
The road to success is often paved with countless large obstacles. Overcoming them may not be easy, but it'll definitely be worth it. Truth be told, the only real barriers are the ones we create in our minds. By cultivating a growth mindset, every obstacle can eventually be transformed into opportunities for growth. As you embark on this arduous journey, here are a few final pointers to keep in mind.
No two are alike. Unfortunately, what comes naturally to others may not be as easy for you. Seeing others thrive in areas we find so hard to develop often leaves us feeling utterly defeated. However, comparing yourself to others is like measuring your progress using someone else’s ruler; it only sets you up for failure. Focus instead on your own path, for your only competition is who you were yesterday.
It is what it is. Some have smooth sailing childhoods while others might have theirs filled with trauma. Everyone is met with wildly different circumstances in life, and like it or not, it has a lot to do with luck. Although life may seem extremely unfair sometimes, we only suffer because we expect life to play by our rules. However, we should always keep in mind that it is not our circumstances that matter, but what we do with them that ultimately determines who we are.
A speck of dust. Everyone has problems, and although some of them may be huge, most others are often amplified by our imagination. The next time your problems seem too overbearing, just remember that we are merely a tiny speck of dust in this vast and infinite universe, what more our problems? Sometimes, it helps to take a step back to view things from a larger perspective. It may not solve the problem, but it might help ease the pain.
Until you make the unconscious conscious,
it will direct your life and you will call it fate.
Carl Gustav Jung
Life is like a game of cards. No matter how unfair we think our hand is, we cannot change the core of our personality. Life is not determined by the cards you were dealt with; it is how you play that matters. Even a great hand can be wasted if the player does not make the most out of it. So now with these cards in your hands, how would you play them to win the game of life?
As we wrap up our exploration of the NFBV Oracle archetype, we'd like to emphasize that this isn't the end, but rather a new beginning in your journey towards a happier, more fulfilling life. We encourage you to seize this opportunity and embark on a path towards success as you embrace your shadows and thrive within darkness!
Along with the wealth of knowledge we've provided in the past six sections, we'd like to offer a curated list of relevant resources in the form of books, articles, and links that can further support you on your journey. Do check out these useful resources in the next section.
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Useful Resources [Oracle]